The Baby Mama

Since when is dropping a money order in the mail equivalent to parenting?

Contributing financially to the care of your child is definitely a part of being a parent. But it is a small part. And one shouldn't expect any explause for it. Sending me a "how is she doing" text message every few days and coming to see her every now and then when you are bored or didn't make plans with your girlfriend makes you nothing more than a sperm donor in my eyes. And to send me money to buy her a Christmas gift from you is quite sad when you have no reason why you can't do it yourself. It says you are incapable of spending more than 5 minutes thinking about her. A parent would be proud to take the time picking out a special gift for their child. You have no idea what it takes to be a parent -and have shown you don't have the time to find out - so please don't refer to yourself as one.

Sooo....let me get this straight...

...you have changed your mind about having your daughter with you for Christmas because you have decided to go out of town with your girlfriend instead? You want to spend the holiday getting to know your gf's family when your own daughter barely knows you? Just checking. At least you have your priorities in order! What a LAME! But its all good - I will be so happy having her with me for Christmas anyway. Your loss.

can't believe it!

Her father actually said something positive to me! I must record it because it may never happen again. lol

He said: "you have taken such good care of her. it is impressive."

Now, to some of you that may not seem like too much. But he has been a complete idiot since I had her so him saying something complimentary of me is HUGE! Maybe...just MAYBE...one day we can have a civilized, drama-free parenting relationship. I'm keeping hope alive.

Bitterness

Quite a few chicas (including me) are bitter towards their baby's father to some degree, for various reasons. Maybe he isn't taking care of his financially responsibility - maybe he left you high and dry while you were preg and now wants to show up to interrupt your child's life after you've been raising him by yourself all these years - maybe he was with his new girlfriend while you were giving birth - or maybe he is just an @$$hole for a billion other reasons. I will admit I have had not one positive thought regarding my child's father in a very long time. In fact, I have had some thoughts that I am ashamed of even repeating - LOL. How do we get past that unhealthy bitterness towards him for the sake of our own happiness and peace of mind?

Child support

Somebody please tell me why this FOOL who already doesn't pay his child support on a regular basis would fix his mouth to ask me if he could pay off some bills first before he starts helping out with his child like he should. Huh?! And I'm not talking about rent or basic utilities...I'm talking about stuff like bank loans and other random debt he has accumulated. Again, huh?! (Some background info: he is trying to get some bills out of the way so he and his new gf can purchase a house. Really. I'm not making this stuff up. Lol) Do I have the option of putting my child's needs on hold while I "pay off some bills"?! I must be in the twilight zone. This is why some men MUST be dealt with through the court system. I have more to say on this later but for now I must get some sleep. This blogging thing is therapeutic...glad I started doing it. Maybe it'll keep me from ending up on the news and in prison. Lol