The Baby Mama

Valentines day for single ladies

Here are some ideas for "celebrating" Valentines day if you are a single chica.

I'd Rather be Single Than With My Ex! (Ex-orcising party) - Was your ex less than than desirable? Then get together with a bunch of friends who feel the same way, and have an Ex-orcism. Have friends bring old remembrances of their ex-mates such as stuffed animals, clothing, cards/letters, etc. to be "discarded" in the manner of your choice at the party. Play games like Bitter Arts & Crafts, and have a tape of the best "get on with your life" songs like, "I Will Survive," "What's Love Got to do With it," "It's My Party." You know which ones we mean. (www.party411.com)

 

Host a "chocolate and cocktails" party. Have all sorts of chocolate snacks and make chocolate cocktails. Might make for a stomach ache though. lol

 

Try a "self love" day. Just spend all day indulging in guilt-free pampering and doing whatever you like to do..

 

And you can always just ignore V-day and pretend it doesn't exist which is what I will likely do. :oP

If you are single, what are you doing for Valentine's day?

 

When should you introduce your child to someone you are dating?

Most single moms have a strong opinion about this topic and I'm sure it continues being the basis of some heated discussions. Some say you should wait until you plan on marrying the guy and others say it is no big deal to make the introductions whenever. I suppose I fall somewhere in between. Now, I am nowhere near being an expert on single parent dating and I have not yet begun dating and probably won't for a while - but I will offer my two cents anyway. And when I say child I am thinking of a young child, age 6 & below. I think this issue becomes less of one when dealing with an older child who understands more about relationships and who you can sit down with and discuss your intentions, plans, etc. Dating is normal and healthy for a single adult but that does not mean you should involve your young child in all your dating experiences. Children are very perceptive and they appreciate stability and security. I think it is unrealistic to say one should wait until she "is sure" about him or she plans on getting married before she introduces her child(ren) to the guy in her life. I have been "sure" several times about a guy in the past but I am no longer with them, LOL. I do think she should wait until she feels he is a significant part of her life and she has taken the time to get to know him and trusts him (really can't put a time frame on any of this....) I am SO not down with introducing a child to a guy I "just met" and am casually dating. I do not see the purpose in it.

I have more to say and will add to this later but I'm so sleepy right now and my head is about to hit the keyboard.

In the meantime, let me know where you stand on the issue...

best dating websites for single parents...according to reviews, not me

I am soooo not interested in dating right now but I am sure that will change when my baby gets a little older and I feel more comfy having folks babysit - and when I feel so starved for a love life that I can't take it anymore, LOL. Anywho, someone asked me the other day if I knew of any good dating sites for single parents so I decided to google some reviews. Again, I don't have any personal experiences with any of these sites so try them at your own risk. I will list them from least expensive to most & I will include a few things said about each. If you try any of them or have in the past, let me know! I will follow up in the near future with a post on the best places offline to meet a single parent for dating - I know some folks simply can't get with online dating. Good luck!

Single Parent Meet

$9.95 per month. Limited free trial membership. Features include video/audio greetings & live chat

Single Parents Mingle

In depth personality profile questions. $19.99 per month  

Single Parent Match

Limited guest trial membership. Paid members have access to single parent blogs, message boards, & dating advice. $29.95 per month....um, whatever!